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Susan Scheid's avatar

Of many things I appreciate about Kara are those demonstrated in the final anecdote she relates. First, Kara shows by example how to put accurate sex-based language into action, and second, she explicitly gives permission to others to do the same. Along with Kara’s famous scare quotes gesture (now immortalized on a Nina Paley playing card), I appreciate it every time, in a conversation like the one she relates here, she reassures those to whom she is speaking that doing what she is advocating truly is OK.

Here’s the anecdote to which I’m referring:

We were chatting and one woman asked me what we’re going to do about the problem of “transgender athletes” competing in women’s sports. I said “Okay, we can talk about that, but first I want to ask what you mean by ‘transgender athletes.’” The room fell silent and tense. Then I asked, “Do you mean men and boys?” She paused and then said cautiously, “I didn’t think we were allowed to say that.” My response was basically that if you mean men and boys you can just say men and boys. The sense of relief in the room was palpable.

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BeadleBlog's avatar

The one woman's use of the word "allowed" indicates how easily it's been to get some to imprison their own brains. The way to demolish the jail bars is to stick to reality. No compromise, starting with language.

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